Friday, April 27, 2007

Just Five Years


As a young man I thought a lot about the girl I would someday marry, but I never really thought about the Mother and Father in-law I would get also. Until five years ago. When Allison and I got married five years ago I didn't know Terry and Connie that well. They had visited us in Indiana some but we hadn't had the chance to really bond. As a matter of fact when I asked Terry if I could marry Allison his reply was " We trust Allison's judgment " . So I'm not to convinced he was so sure... at first. But that all changed. After we were married and moved to Michigan Allison and I started spending a lot of time with Terry and Connie. Some of my favorite memories are going down to the Bass Pro Shop on a Saturday morning. Just the four of us. But as Terry and I started to develop our relationship I realized very soon that it wouldn't stop with a friendship, but that I was becoming one of his kids. Something I never knew I would get the privilege of being. See, Terry loved his family, and everyone of us knew it. And the more I got to know Terry the more I learned that Christ is first, Family is second, and everything else...well, it's everything else. That was not something that I had ever grasped. And as I learned many things about being a Godly man from Terry I don't think there was ever a time when he just sat me down and said "this is how you do it" he just lived it. And the more I seen that the more I wanted to be like that.

So this grieving story is from someone on the other side of the coin, the son-in-law side. A year ago today Terry went home to receive his reward. He left a lot of people here that loved him and looked to him. But he also left the only son-in-law he had, but I don't think he ever saw the in-law part in that name, because I felt as much like a son to him as anyone could. Thank you God for Terry and for the way he took the time to invest in me, and love me like his own child. I'm a better man for it. I wish we would have had more time then just five years.

See you later...

I've been dreading this post for awhile; but Aaron & Jayna have inspired me to talk it out...

One year ago...our phone rang about 5:42am...I answered and Justin asked for Sep. I thought why in the world is Justin calling to talk to Sep about trees at 5:30 in the morning!! (I was totally still sleeping) I heard Sep say, "Ok...Did you call 911?" Not knowing what was giong on I assumed it was Carly, Justin & Brenda's girl had just been born two days prior, and I said outloud, "We'll be right there".

Sep hung up the phone and said..."You need to sit down". I was 29 weeks pregnant at the time. So nice of him to be concerned about my health...but I never could have imagined what would come next. He said, "Oh boy...your Dad's heart stopped and he's not breathing..." I hollered for it to not be true...he held me for a minute and then I said, "Let's go"... He knew then it was more severe than I understood and that there was nothing we could do to help. He said, "Let's pray...." In my mind I'm thinking what in the world???? I remember thinking he had prayed long enough so I just said "AMEN!"

He went to get the truck, I got dressed...and couldn't think clearly enough to put anything on...it was the strangest feeling. He finally came back in and helped me...it was so strange...

We live about 2miles from Mom & Dad. He pulled out on the main road and floored it. I looked at him and said, "No way...there won't be two tradgedies today..." He slowed down and later told me he was just thinking of me and I knew he was; but I could actually just hear my DAD saying that to me...

When we pulled down Mom & Dad's road there were rescue vehicles, volunteer firefighters vehicles and an ambulance as well as Aaron & Justin's trucks...and lights everywhere...I started to feel oh so sick...

We couldn't get to the driveway quick enough in my mind...I needed to be with Mom...I asked Sep to just stop and I ran to the house and up the drive. Mom, Justin, Aaron were in the kitchen and they hollered for me to come up there and not go towards the bedroom. I had never seen such anquish on my Mom's face...

About that time they brought Dad out on a board into the hall to put on the guerney in the entry. Sep was just walking in the door. One of the guys lost his grip on the board and it started to slowly lower to the floor...Sep picked up the corner of the board and lifted it onto the guerney...something he will never forget. There we all stood looking at Dad and it was pretty real then that this was very serious. They wheeled him outside down the walk and into the ambulance. I stopped in the front yard for a second and then looked around and there was Aaron with those infamous words of Dad..."If it doesn't work under pressure what good is it..." We just hung onto each other and I told him to stop it...I didn't want to hear it right then. But, it was true...

I wanted to be with Mom and she hopped in Justin's truck so I hopped in the back and Sep followed in our truck. We followed the ambulance all the way to the hospital...I claimed every scripture known to man on my way there...I claimed the power of the cross...I knew God was with us. In all the chaos; there was a peace...unexplainable.

Justin dropped Mom & I off at the door...Mom said I need to register him and stopped at the desk. She said, "Mrs. Hess?"...come back here with me. Mom looked at me and said - I'm not going anywhere until I register him! Me being obviously clueless said - Mom listen to them. The nurse said come back here with me...Mom wouldn't budge an inch. I couldn't move her for anything. She insisted on registering Dad. (She knew...) We eventually got Mom to move and they took us to a private room. I told MOm it was just so we didn't sit with folks who were waiting for cuts & colds. (She knew...again, I was clueless) When we got into the room I saw all of the grief pamphlets. I said to Mom - they've got us in the wrong room.

It was around this time (7am-ish) that the Dr came into the room....Dad didn't make it. Mom collapsed to the floor and I just didn't know what to do. People started showing up, Dad's siblings, pastors, close friends, other loved ones...it was a bad dream getting worse and worse. Mom was still on the floor sobbing. I helped her up to sit in a chair and we all just sat there....

When we left the hospital Mom came with Sep & I in our truck and when we were driving home the cars were all heading to their jobs and such. She said.."Don't they know what has just happened...how can they keep going..."

The tragic day for us; but an unbelievably glorious one for Dad... Erica M. called and left a message, she said, Al - your Dad has seen Jesus. We got talking that day about that exact thing...what did we think Dad did when he saw Jesus? Did he fall to his face before our Father? Did he embrace him? Was he overcome with adoration?? Did he stand in awe??

I'll share more later...we're on our way to Mom's and the breakfast casserole is getting almost done...

Thursday, April 26, 2007

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If we had only known what the morning would bring one year ago tonight...

Moving into the house my 4th year of college...I was more thrilled than I look in the picture; just pooped from moving...Mom & Dad always made the trek to be a part of my life when I lived far away...

Mom and her stinkin' family pictures...so glad she made sure they happened!

Hiking with Mom & Dad a few years back...

Dad saved this one as "The Flinstones"...hilarious!! Mom & Dad hiking at Mammoth Caves. Sep proposed to me this week...we called them on vacation to tell them....even though we called in the middle of the night (I worked late that night) they didn't care; they were so thrilled!!!
I miss my Pops more than I can put into words....if God brings our family to your mind tomorrow, please remember us. We are celebrating Dad's first year in heaven tomorrow at Mom's...I'll post more later...

Monday, April 23, 2007

Visitors...

Mom had some crazy folks stop by and beg for dinner Saturday (turns out they're our cousins!) ha ha ...Sep, Tucker & I stopped over to make sure everything was OK!
Tucker was just mesmerized by Mere. We sure enjoyed visiting with Kathy & Mere and they brought Mom some beautiful flowers!!

The Boys

Here are the boys...Tucker's first quad ride on the big quad. He was so excited. Sep said he kept hollering and hitting the gas tank while they were driving.

Wednesday, April 18, 2007

Camo Man...

Gram & Papaw bought this outfit for Tucker for Christmas and it fits now!! He's so cute. We had a little photo op this morning while getting ready for work/daycare. I was talking with him that's why he's looking to the side...Daddy was our photographer.





Tuesday, April 17, 2007

It's a bird...it's a plane...

It's an electrician and his "helper"...Sep will be the first to tell you he is not an electrician. That's fine with me; he's a phenominal carpenter! On the other hand, Aaron is a great electrician and is always taking care of us.
Last night Aaron & Sep fixed the mercury light in our yard - we have really missed it!!! It quit working almost a year ago and it's just been a pain! But it was working to it's full potential last night! Thanks guys for your hard work!
If you look close enough Aaron has quite a smirk on his face...I can only imagine what kind of wisecrack he was making about me taking their picture. I told them I didn't want to miss a good blog opportunity.

Monday, April 16, 2007

Four Wheelin Fun!

Back in March...we're so behind...after we celebrated Sep's 30th birthday at Mom's we were outside and Sep decided it was time to let Tucker try out the 4 wheeler Dad bought for the grandkids...Tucker ran the pedal all on his own. He was so focused on it and did seem to enjoy it. It won't be long and he'll be driving this little battery powered ATV on his own!

Enjoy the pics and videos! Aaron was standing next to me when we were taping it and we were just waiting for Sep to dump Tucker off the side - but he proved us wrong!


Chillin'

Tucker was so cute yesterday when taking a nap in his swing...He had his head all propped back on his arm watching the outside and then fell asleep, of course we couldn't help but take a picture, or 2!!

Sunday, April 15, 2007

Bug Killer???

A few weeks back when Tucker was still wanting to crawl, but not getting down the concept. Here he is on the kitchen floor. Sep had to take a video it was too cute! It looks like he's a bug killer, but the lady bugs haven't made that big of an appearance yet!

Peek-a-Boo

Peek-A-Boo says the big boy!!!

Oranges!

Tucker LOVES oranges!!!


Taylor Tot Fun

Taylor Tot came and hung out with us a few Saturdays ago while Carly was at the Dr. She's so much fun...Tucker loved having her over. He giggled and giggled at her!!!